The Mother Wound. This is a big one. We all have a mother wound - each of us have a story. Learn a 4 step technique to heal that wound today!

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Hello and welcome back. I'm your host, Dr. Divi. Welcome to the podcast ease into clarity. If you've listened to the last few episodes, we've talked about the feminine, this is the last one in this little series on the feminine. I'm trying to clump three videos or podcast together to help you out. So today we're gonna talk about the mother wound, which if you've listened to the first two on, on the fear of the feminine and the lack of the feminine, that will help you to understand today's podcast. But today, we're talking about a really big topic called the mother wound.

Um, don't worry, I'm gonna break it down to four simple steps in just a few minutes here. So just bear with me. The end of the day, we all have mom. And Hollywood and Hallmark would love to teach us that that mother is the best thing in the world. And she didn't harm you. And she did the best she could. And she was wonderful. Oh, that's true. We're also taught and you know that the mother is the most important thing too, especially as little girls. And that mother daughter relationship should be like go to pedicures every Friday, because that's the mother daughter relationship you should have through toddle these things about the mother and what their role in his or her life is.

And for many of us, if not the majority of us, we don't have that Hallmark mother. It's not because our mothers could have stopped because anything bad happened. But it's because our soul chose this mother. Oh, that sounds like Hocus. I know it does, trust me. But then the more you dive into this work, the more you realize, okay, maybe there's truth here. But we're not going to go down that path. We're just going to talk about healing the mother wound today. All of our mother's unhealed stuff becomes our unhealed stuff. Let me give you an example. Let's just say your mom was so busy at work and juggling work, and three kids are working one kid, but the work was what she was taught was so important to her. You may have as a result of that experience, mom was really busy. You had to, you know, watch, watch after school shows to function. And all you want to as moms come around and give you a hug, but mom couldn't she was working. And that may create was in your body a rejection wound and abandonment wound, I can't trust women wound that's in you. And you could blame spend the rest of your life blaming your mom, go ahead, I'm not going to stop you. But at a certain point that gets really tiring. I can tell you in my personal life, I spent probably a good 235 years in that place. It was fun. It wasn't fun. It was not fun at all.

But in today's podcast, I'm going to go through the steps I took to really break that mother wound because I have a deep mother wound as we all do. We all do. Mine isn't bigger than yours. No one's is bigger than the others. It's what we choose to do with that impact. So we choose to think about it. And what a lot of us try to do is just ignore it. We we take a lot of drugs, we drink a lot of alcohol, we find lots of guys to sleep with, we find girlfriends to distract herself with we find other mothers of our friends to become our our surrogate mother, we do lots of things other than address the mother's wound, because like I said, our mother's unhealed stuff becomes our unhealed stuff. I often say this in workshops, and you're gonna understand this concept by the end of it. It's a hard one to hear. It's not our mother's job to love us. That's not what we learn. It's our mother's job to love us. The thing is, there's an innate ness to every mother that loves their child, that they're just as they're just as having been a mother who worked with tons of mothers, there's an innate Ness.

But when we have the wounds that we have those wounds perceive our mother doesn't love us. It's up to us to heal those wounds. It's up to us to look inside. We can't rewind time and say mother be a different person, become a better person. So I don't have these wounds. That's never gonna happen. So in today's podcast, I'm going to go through the four steps that I took to heal my mother wound and I hope they help you might be five.

The first step I have to be honest with myself. I had met how it felt. I to admit, it felt terrible when mom wasn't available. It felt awful when my mom put me down. It felt awful when I perceived that my mother loved my brother more than me. I'd be honest, because don't forget there's a part of your brain, the frontal lobe to be specific, that doesn't want to go there. Because if I go there, it's going to be painful. If I go there, I have to walk on landmines and admit the hurt I felt. And don't forget, we talked about this in one of our first podcasts. One of the functions of the brain is to go up no pain, don't go there. Don't go there. Don't go there and just get trapped back. You know subconscious cool back here. If I don't look at it, it's going to run my brain. We talked about that. The first or second podcasts of this have of me starting this podcast series. So the first thing we need to do their mother wound is admit we've got it, you might spend some time blaming, you might spend some time being angry. That's okay. Because otherwise this trap back here, I'll teach you a really simple technique that I teach a lot of people to dig into some other one before I go to the next part.

The technique is really simple. Sit in the middle of the room, and face the right and face to the left. Let's start with the right. When you face the right, you're going to say out loud, all the things you loved about your mother, Mom, you were beautiful, Mom, you were kind at times, mommy provided dinner every night. Thank you so much. Everything good comes out of your mouth, everything you loved about your mother. Then when that naturally organically stops, you go back to the middle. And then you turn to the left you go Mom, this is the stuff you didn't like about your mom, Mom, this is the honest, Mom, I didn't like it when Christmas became a 900 year experience. I didn't like it when he got mad at me because I dropped the Christmas ball. I didn't like it when I got yelled at for being late for Christmas dinner. So you want to be really honest with what you're feeling over here. And that honestly, is the hardest part. And it can take you days, weeks, months, years to work through. But you are doing yourself and your children and society the biggest favor by admitting this stuff. That's step one. Now how long you stay in step one and angry and blaming is up to you. There's like a natural organic time that happens to each person that they're tired of talking about the pain. And they want to move to the next step.

So step two, is to recognize where your mother came from. And that might take asking your mother or asking your father or asking your grandparents, because sometimes your mother won't tell you. Yeah, your grandfather raised me or Yeah, we went for food multiple nights without it because some mothers don't want to tell their children what they went through. Okay. Sometimes you just ask other people, your aunts, your uncles, whoever. But understanding your mother had a pain story and hearing it, maybe through her or ideally somebody else. And thinking of her like a TV character. Like if you're watching a TV show, and this was your mom's life, you might have some compassion. She was ever heard by her father. She was never seen by her mother. Her dad

died when she was young. That degree of compassion of understanding your story is step two. Step three is to understand that there is another energy that can heal your wounds. So let's just see if an abandonment or rejection wound or not being heard wound, not being safe wound. It's not your mom's job to heal it. It's your job. So you want to create a safety with this world. We're called love. The world word called universe, the universe where it's called grace, where it's called flow. We're called Spirit. There is an energy out there of unconditional love that we want to tap into. Because it's only that step three is important because only when we tap into that thing called unconditional love, can we heal our pain? I've said this many times in the podcast so far. The mind cannot heal the mind. Only the non physical love can heal mind. So how do you try to tap into this non fiscal love Devi. You start with things like animals and plants. Dogs are my favorite thing in the world. Cats. Whatever you love that's non physical. That's not human, I should say. That you know is unconditional love. That's the place to start. If a dog can give you unconditional love that should tell you that unconditional love exists. You associate in your brain. Unconditional love with my puppy Joe. But unconditional love is an emotion and it exists. Okay?

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So you have to start to step three have to train your mind that love grace, the universe is love exist. It just does. Just train yourself. Spend 10 years with a dog. Plants can do the same thing for some people just really connect with unconditional love.

Then step four is forgiveness. It's partly forgiving your mom but it's mostly forgiving that wound forgiving that wound of abandonment, forgiving that wound of rejection, forgiving that wound that you weren't important because the universe you're important to the universe you're not rejected to universe you're not abandoned. And forgiveness with number four number two, go ahead and had when I can forgive them and forgive the story and lead in love for my puppy. Then that wound that's triggering me. 24/7 can be healed. If you get stuck with step four. It's very common to get stuck, you might need a deeper class to take you there. But I can tell you as somebody who's done this work myself, step four isn't hard. It just takes that unconditional love part of you, that wants to love that rejected wound. Because we are responsible for healing her mother's wound, not our mom, or a dad or husbands or kids. We have Joe for ourselves. So I hope that helps as this wraps up the female three podcast series. So as I wind down here, I want to remind you, I work as a professional intuitive. I'm a family doctor by background, and I'm happy to answer any of your questions. So you've got some questions or comments, feel free to put them down below on the podcast. Share this with your friends. I would love it if you did. I would love it if you subscribed. If you want to send me an email, [email protected] You can ask a personal question, divi. I'm stuck with my mother wound. She did this this this. I'd like some help. Happy to help. So sending you lots of love. I hope this was helpful in any which way. It can be a lifelong journey but the best journey no matter